Healing mental wounds and dropping emotional baggage.
There are things that everyone on this planet experiences regardless of where you were born, what hue of skin you have, or what religious doctrine you subscribe to. One of these things is being emotionally scarred. Whether it be a bully beating on you as a child, being sexually abused, or past loves lost. We all have these experiences. For many, these occurrences completely derail potentially fruit bearing relationships and associations.How do we heal these wounds? How do we let go?
Letting go of past hurts is a MUST
I’m coming with another boxing analogy again. I know I use them often but I feel as though boxing has so many parallels to life in general it cannot be overlooked. So you have a potential championship fighter quickly rising through the ranks of his division. They are gleaming with confidence and ready to take on any challenges thrown in front of them. Until one fight where their opponent just has the perfect style to offset any advantages they may have. It’s the 9th round and he goes down hard, his equilibrium completely thrown off and the ten count is up and the bell sounds. He just got his first loss and by knockout. Now faced with a damaging mental blow they come to a fork in the road, will they now associate all boxers they face with being knocked out? Or will they treat it as an isolated incident and know that that boxer they faced just had their card, accept it and move on. This is the dilemma facing us all. When we fail a class with one specific teacher, does this mean that we are never going to excel in the subject? If we are hurt by a man or woman in a relationship does that mean all men and women are going to do wrong by you? Of course not, but many of us have this subconscious belief that it will, even if we show the opposite sentiments outwardly.
When I was in the first grade there was an embarrassing incident that tool place when I was presenting a project in front of the class. I still have a little too much pride to go into complete detail, but from then up until a few years ago speaking in front of groups of people was completely terrifying even I didn’t give off any visible signs. There are a slew of things that I did to conquer this and they apply to anything; relationships, childhood scars, fears of flying etc. Just about anything.
What you have to do
What worked for me and the first step I took was visualization. Visualization that I would go and speak in front of groups with great success and the audience would show the utmost adoration. I know this will sound cliche`, but fear of failure is a great way to bungle anything. Visualizing failure results in failure, so do the opposite and visualize yourself as a success. Leave that childhood incident back in that classroom is what I did. That was then and this is now. It’s a new day and I’m not the same person with the same outlook and I will accept new things into my life and not shut them out because of something non -related to that specific incident.
Another great tool is to write your pains down in a journal/diary. Put the burden on the book and release it from psyche. When you decide to write something new, you turn the page. Just like you “turn the page” on a past wound. Then once you are done writing that day and when all the pages are full you can “close the book” on a lot of pain and suffering and leave it in the book and not carry it around with you and have to work against you. There are also crystal therapies and reflexology techniques like EFT (Emotional freedom technique) that will help you. I will get into that later though. The bottom line is you don’t have to carry this weight around like an albatross around your neck, there are ways to check that baggage at the door. So you don’t have to unload this baggage on everyone you come in contact with. Thanks for reading-Sutekh.
